You tugged on my heart strings, man. Congrats on finding the strength to reach out and establishing communications with your real Dad! I hope everything works out for you and him. That's a tough situation to be confronted with it sounds like.
Touching story and you are very brave. It takes a lot for a kid to forgive his father and reach out to him. My father grew up without his dad and reached out to him when I was little. If not for you, do it for your kid since every kid should get to meet their grandparents
Thanks for posting and good luck. While most father/son estrangement stories follow somewhat along your lines, I am experiencing the opposite. My grown son has made some bad choices. When I called him on it, he got mad and no longer communicates with me. I think eventually we will mend fences, but it takes two to tango.
I'm sorry to do this in public but can you recommend a counseling group? My SO grew up without her dad and I think this would help.
Thanks and I am glad you have been getting counseling because I know how you grew up with those same questions and it really does take a toll on you when you become an adult and suddenly have to live with the burden of it.
Moes, I know we've talked about this already, but thank you for sharing. Going through a similar thing myself, and it's always reassuring and helpful to hear from someone who has gone through the same. Finalsbound - thanks for sharing. Hope all is well.
Ever consider legally adopting him? If the sperm-donor signed away his rights, I would think it would be a pretty easy process.
Heh. Sperm-donor is one way of putting it. Yeah I'm open to it. I don't want to force it on him though, if he expresses interest in it, then I would be glad to. He's almost a teenager now so he's getting closer to the age where can start making some decisions for himself.
Basically yeah, the coach had him lined up behind the tackle and told him to pretend to block for a second and then he released, the QB hit him and he ran about 7 yards to paydirt. It was awesome.
Great story mate. Very well written and extremely touching. Nice of you to give the man the respect he deserves and your willingness to rekindle the relationship. Congrats and best wishes
Thanks for sharing. Life is so full of regrets where we second guess ourselves. I applaud you for being courageous in trying to reach out to your dad, a seemingly easy task that is often very difficult for many.
Beautiful story and thanks so much for sharing this. Your father has been through quite a bit (as have you), and now you have a better understanding of his journey. He's a strong man, and it looks like he passed that DNA along to you. Your story is truly inspirational, and shows that by the grace of god of anything is possible. Please keep us updated.
Moe's, much respect man. My wife went through something similar, albeit different. Long story short, her parents split when she was young, like you. Her mother had a deep seeded resentment towards him, and it reared its ugly head the older she and her brother got. She grew up 15 miles from her dad and didn't see him for 10 years. As our relationship evolved, I knew that a chunk of my wife, deep down, was wounded by this lack of relationship. I kept subtly trying to push her to try and salvage it. I could tell it was eating at her. What ended up happening was that her dad ended up moving to Chicago. Two weeks before he moved, she realized it may be her last chance to see him again, so she contacted him. She was no longer worried about what her mother and stepdad would think. They had a long, emotional talk in my dining room while I sat in the living room, as she wanted me to be close by. It was emotional. Extremely so. What happened? Basically, a misunderstanding. What I saw was this man and his daughter who had wanted a relationship with each other for ten years, but somehow, somewhere it got messed up. When her brother heard she had seen their father, he agreed to see him too. He said he was angry at his father because he was trying to protect his sister. Now, they are still rebuilding, but they get along pretty well. We'll see them this Sunday. All in all, my wife and brother in law met their 11 year old half sister, and now have that relationship they've been missing. Like I said, that's the short version. Sorry It was long.
I lost my dad this year. Sounds like you found your dad, or your dad found you. I hope you can cherish the time together and fully reconcile.
