I lost Dad on March 22 at 10:36 a.m. He passed away peacefully with my sister and me at at his side. He developed acute respiratory distress syndrome (ARDS) from pneumonia. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/ards/symptoms-causes/syc-20355576 My sister and I never left him alone for the month and a half that he was in the hospital. I would stay with him from 7am until 9pm and my sister would stay overnight with him. I'm healing, but it's going to obviously going to be awhile. I find myself very short tempered and even though I'm back at work, I'm just kind of here. Mentally checked out. My sister has taken over the care taking of my mother, but I am always checking on my sister and my mom to see what help I can give. I do go to Dad's grave and speak with him and that really helps me. I'm able to let a lot out and i feel so much better for a little while at least. I just felt a need to let this out. I miss him very much, but i know he is resting now. I love you Dad. I wish you were still here with me. We had so much we still had to do together.
I'm sorry for your loss. It's unimaginable to me what you and your family are going through. Praying for you and your family
My heart goes out to you and your family for your loss. I too have lost my father, and know how deeply that loss hurts. All I can tell you is to try and find some peace knowing he no longer suffers. Peace be with you!
Sorry to hear that, my condolence. Sounds like you have a great relationship with your dad, that matters a lot.
That's rough. Pneumonia is a scary sickness for older people; my grandmother got through a bout last year and is doing fine now, but it was touch and go. And my dad has shown lately he isn't so bullet proof as he used to be. So I've learned to cherish them even more, even though they might outlast me (we never know how much time we have). Hope you are able to find some peace at this sad time. Keep talking to him. Somehow I think it'll help.
Sorry to hear that. We are all gonna go thru this as the son and then as the father. What matters most is how you spend that precious time
That's too bad. I was raised by my grandparents and my Mother. Thier passing felt like losing a parent. It does not get easy but you will learn to handle it. More than anything you find peace in what feels like a turbulent storm. My peace came in dreams. I used to get really sad when I would dream about them, now I look forward to it. I often hug them in my dreams and its a close as I can get to being with them again. It will get better though hopefully, you will be able to find that thing that brings you peace.
I offer my sincerest condolences to you. I know you have had a rough go of life these past few years. I have barely even gotten to know my own father over the past year since moving closer. Things like this remind me of how little time we really have here on this crazy rock. May you find the peace in knowing that although existence is finite, time is an illusion. Though you will feel his void the rest of your days, you will complete your own cycle soon enough, and what happens after that is still anyone's guess.
I'm really sorry for your loss. I'm afraid of the day I will feel a loss like this too. I hope you feel better with time.
I'm so sorry to hear this, FT. My condolences to you and your family. He obviously helped raise some great kids seeing how you cared for him in his time of need. You're doing the right thing by talking about it. It will get better.
My old man went away about 5 years ago, it sucks. There's nothing else to say. I do talk to him and my granddad every day or 2, usually when I'm watching the sunrise. I just think about them all the time. My dad was the farthest thing you've ever seen from a hippie, but he loooved this song, so here it is for you:
